Mar 19, 2008

An unexpected loss.

I am making this entry with mixed emotions. For the last couple of days I have wanted to make an entry that covered the weekend, and what a decent weekend it was. It was spent with friends and bbq-ing lots of meat and stuffed mushrooms. On top of that, Ubu has been doing better, and has even started eating on his own (a little), which is a huge improvement. These entries are long over due and deserving, in their own rite, of a little more detail and attention.

Sadly, the last couple of days have been busy. Work has been hectic, to say the least, and I have been getting home later and later every day. Then, when I do get home, I am hand feeding the cat and making dinner and trying to clean up the house for Ben's arrival this weekend. So this morning, when I got here, I was hoping to find some down time in order make these entries and make sure they received the detail they deserved. Then I received a phone call today 6:45 this morning that threw my whole day off.

At some point last night, one of my co-workers passed away. To say this was unexpected would be an understatement. He and I worked together yesterday. the best we can figure from the information that we have is that he died of a heart attack at some point in night. He and I were not exactly close. We never did anything on the weekends together, we never sat and watched a Sunday football game. But we have worked together over the last 5 years. And in my profession, one of the best things you can say about a person is that I would happy to have that man back me up. And if he called for help I would run as fast as I could to make sure I was there to back him up. He was a good man and he deserved a lot longer of a life.

I am sorry for his family, his wife and children, who will no longer have him there. I am sorry for those friends who were closer than I and will miss him.

Anytime there is a loss of life it is tragic and leaves many people feeling lost, helpless and searching for answers. We all feel that way today. We want answers to a problem that we will not get answers to today. And In my profession, we consider ourselves family, and we watch out for each other. The forunate thing for us is we have each other here, we can support those who are in need.

Don will be missed, and we all grieve for his family.


  1. Adam, please let you co-workers know that we are sorry to hear about Don. We have lost friends and coworkers over the years, and we understand how you are all feeling. Love, Mom and Dad

  2. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. When somone passes and it's not really expected, it's natural to look for reasons, for answers. The best we can do is support one another in your shared grief. I think the best advice I heard at a memorial service came from the mother of a 19 year old who was killed in a car crash. She said whenever you think of her son, turn around and do something nice for someone else - that would be the finest tribute of all.

    Take good care of yourself and your co-workers.

  3. Thank you both for your comments.

    We are all getting by as best we can, and we have generally accepted the fact that he is gone, and we are making sure we all stick together now for support.


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